Proverbs 31:11 – Building Trust

4 Apr

Welcome to day three of our Proverbs 31 challenge! We are taking Proverbs 31:10-26 verse by verse in an attempt to better ourselves for those we love. Wanna join? It’s not too late! Start with yesterday’s post, “Proverbs 31:10 – Becoming Priceless”.

Remember to ask the Lord to help you on your journey with this:

Lord,  I believe you have brought (insert husband’s name here)  into my life for a reason. That reason is to be the perfect wife for him. As I strive to better myself, be with me. Let it not be me changing, but You changing me. Amen.

 

Today, it’s all about TRUST. 

Proverbs 31:11   Her husband can trust her, and she makes his life better, giving him no reason to regret trusting her.

Can your husband trust you? Aren’t sure? Maybe it’s time to have a chat about it.

Even if you have the most trusting relationship in the world, there are probably a few places you can improve.

Being trustworthy isn’t just about not telling people about that giant mole on his back (this is a fictional mole) or announcing in front of his friends that he is *terrified* of snakes (Sorry, love.). It’s about being constant.

Today, I challenge you to do a few things to build your trust in your relationship.

  1. Tell your husband you are going to do something. Do it. – It doesn’t even have to be anything big. Say, “When you get home tonight, I’m going to meet you at the door.” And then, follow through. Pick something every day for the next week, and then, do it. Don’t tell him why. Just do it. Be like Nike®, if you will.
  2. Confide in him.  Seems silly, a little bit, huh? Well, the best way to build trust, is to give trust. If you don’t trust him, why should he trust you? We are women. There is something that has been weighing on our minds. Tell him. Ask him to pray for you and with you about it. Give it a few days, and then thank him for being there for you. It will remind him that you trusted him, and boost his self-esteem because you remembered that he was there for you.
  3. Hug him.  Say what?! That’s right. Hug him. Would you walk up to a stranger and hug them? Probably not. Show your husband that basic level of trust by hugging him often.
  4. Don’t downplay his emotions.  This one will take some time. When your husband makes comments, no matter how small they seem to you, don’t discount his feelings. I am *so guilty* of doing this. Mr. will tell me something that is serious to him, and I laugh. I don’t know why. I can’t help it. But, starting now, I will help it.  When he tells me that he had a hard day at work, I will show empathy and ask  him to talk about it. And I will be sincere.
  5. Ask him how to pray for him.  Show him that you are in it with him, by asking what he is struggling with. He may be having anger issues at work. Or he may be feeling down lately. Ask him what his needs are. Pray together. Follow up in a few days and ask how he is doing. Then, don’t forget him! Remember to ask every so often if things are better. Also ask him if there is anything new he needs prayer for.

Trust is earned, not given. If you have proven yourself untrustworthy in the past, it will take time to earn that back. Continue showing your husband that you trust him and he will learn that your trust is worth it after a while.

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